Hey, singles, aren’t you tired of people saying, “Don’t worry, the right person will come along at the right time — you’re a catch!?” And, it’s always someone who is happily married or engaged, right?. Listen, we know you mean well, BUT you’re not helping…Like at all! The real question is, how can I be patient when I know I’m a catch?
Being single can have you wondering what the deal is and questioning God. Not that any of us are perfect, but you know you got it going on, okay? You bring a lot to the table, you’re mingling and making yourself available, but nothing seems to stick. So many of us struggle with this, and we wanted to acknowledge the struggle in this post. You are not alone out there, whoever you are!
Here are some tips to help you remain patient while you’re waiting.
Remember who you do it for!
Listen, you are a catch — but for who? Is it because God has blessed you or is it just for the benefit of your future spouse? Everything you are, and all of your amazing qualities are for the glory of God! We have to remember that our life is not wrapped up in who we marry or when we marry. We have a purpose and destiny that goes beyond marriage. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with the desire, but to keep things in perspective.
Affirm yourself.
You have to become your biggest supporter/cheerleader. Sure, it’s nice to have a significant other tell you that you’re great, but be content within yourself. Our society is hyperfocused on the “likes” and acknowledgments from others, but what matters most is what God thinks of you and what you think of yourself. So encourage and pat yourself on the back and be okay with that.
Set goals for where you want to go.
Don’t let the lack of a relationship keep you from accomplishing your goals and dreams. Some of us feel like life won’t begin until we’ve met someone. Yet many happy couples say they met while in pursuit of God’s will for their lives. You are a catch everywhere you go, so don’t ever limit yourself by thinking that your person will only find you in a certain place. Use this time to push yourself to greater levels and become who God called you to be.
Trust in God’s timing.
This one is kind of a cliche now right? But it really is true. Lean into what God is doing in you this season of your life. Pay attention to what He may be teaching you, and it might not have anything to do with deliverance. We always think that something isn’t happening because we’re in error, but maybe God is elevating you right now and He doesn’t want you distracted. Trust in His timing for your life.
Guard Your Heart.
Create healthy boundaries for yourself. Pay attention to your triggers, and don’t let the hope for marriage become an idol in your heart. You are more than a spouse! You are worthy, valued, and loved by a holy God! Don’t send yourself to the clearance aisle when you are one of a kind! Build up your confidence with the word of God, and know that you’re worth the wait.
Being single can really be tough at times and that’s normal, but you’ve got this! Hang in there my friend.
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