It’s sad to think that you might be headed toward a divorce, but there are steps you can take to prevent this from happening. We’ve put together a few divorce-proof methods that can help you to protect or save your marriage! And, you don’t have to be having trouble to implement them. You know what they say, “it’s better to be proactive than reactive.“
Now, if you are having problems — don’t give up! The enemy hates marriage, and he has clever ways of making us feel like things are beyond repair, but with God, anything is possible. Make sure that before you follow any of the methods listed here, you’ve got to make the decision that you’re going to work through this. If you’ve already decided you want out and you’re just going through the motions, it’s probably not going to work. Be open-minded and give it your best shot.
Here’s our five divorce-proof methods for your marriage.
First, thing you need to do is pray and LISTEN.
If talking things out with your spouse isn’t working, you need to turn to God. And when you pray, go in with an open heart that’s willing to receive correction. Don’t just present your case to the Lord without intending to listen and hear what He says. Once you hear from the Lord, do what He tells you, even if you don’t want to. He might ask you to apologize or shower them with love and affection. Whatever it is, humble yourself to His instruction.
Secondly, you need to fast.
Fasting brings you peace and clarity. When we fast, we’re making a sacrifice that opens the door for God to come in and move on our behalf. Your spouse may not want to fast with you, but don’t try to force it. Just focus on God and don’t bring up anything that’s going wrong. Lay everything at His feet, trusting that He’ll take care of the rest.
Next, think about getting counseling.
Finding another married couple with years of experience to mentor you is a great way to see what you haven’t been able to see on your own. You can go by yourself if your partner is unwilling, but this is a great divorce-proof method. The key to effective counseling is honesty. Say your piece soberly and consider the situation from all angles.
Then, take a look at yourself.
Now you may not like this, but marriage in and of itself is perfect. It’s a beautiful gift from God involving two imperfect people. The trouble you’re having is about you and your spouse. There are deep issues that need to be looked at. What have you done to contribute to the state of your marriage? What toxic thoughts, words, or deeds are you pouring into it? More often than not, you’ll find that you’re not completely innocent. And knowing that makes it easier to forgive them.
Finally, you’ve got to fight!
You can divorce-proof your marriage by refusing to let go. You and your spouse are not fighting against flesh and blood. We only have one enemy, but Jesus has already defeated him. It’s time to acknowledge that spiritual warfare is always going to be part of a Christ-centered relationship. But we are not defenseless. Use your heavenly resources to fight for and protect “what God has joined together!”
Divorce may be taking out thousands of marriages, but this won’t be your story. We are standing and believing that God’s plan will work and that our marriages will spark a revival where divorce has no name.
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