Do you remember the days you spent praying that God would send you a spouse? Longing for companionship and patiently waiting for your person to come along. The faith that carried you in your single season, is still needed after “I do. Trusting God goes beyond the altar.
Sometimes we put so much stock into the desire for marriage that everything begins and ends with finding the one. We want so badly to settle down, start a family and live happily ever after…
Then God blesses you with the spouse…Now what?
So often, marriage is idolized as the ultimate goal and once we reach it, we choke under the pressures that come with it. We have trouble facing the realities that we hadn’t anticipated in our single season. We love the good —but we struggle with the bad and the ugly.
Going through trials in marriage isn’t easy and at times you might be tempted to turn on each other when you should lean on each other. Ecclesiastes says, “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor” ( 4:9-12).
Trusting God after “I Do” means that we believe God will take care of us with His provision, in His time. When doubt whispers, we need to silence it with the truths that prove Him to be consistent, credible, and considerate.
God is consistent.
The book of Hebrews reminds us that “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever” (13:8). We don’t serve an unpredictable lukewarm God. He has never changed, and we know that even if we don’t understand, He’s consistently by our side. He’s always intervening on our behalf and pursuing us despite our shortcomings.
God is credible.
God has a perfect track record. He created the universe and everything in it and He knows every hair on our head. So, He can handle the details of our daily lives. Colossians says, “For by him, all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him. And he is before all things, and in him, all things hold together” (1:16-17).
God is considerate.
You are significant to God! He knows you and loves you so much and He values your life. So much so that He sent only His Son to die for you. When things get tough, know that God considers you worthy of His blood and He has a plan — even when we can’t see it.
So, how do these truths about God’s character carry over into our marriages?
If we truly believe that God is consistent, credible, and considerate; we’ll trust Him with the pregnancy or the miscarriage, the promotion or the layoff, good health or sickness. Romans reminds us, “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” ( 8:28).
Start by inviting God in to help you become more intentional. Ask Him to teach you how to keep trusting after “I do” and believing in His faithfulness.
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