Have you ever been super excited about a first date, but then got nervous that you might get there and not have anything to say? Yikes, awkward silence…
Well, after this, boring conversations will be the last thing you have to worry about.
Getting to know someone new doesn’t have to be so scary anymore. If you’re ever in this situation, try a few of these first date conversation starters to get things going.
But, before we jump into our list…
Remember that conversations should consistently go back and forth. So, be sure to ask open-ended questions to keep the dialogue flowing naturally. Then follow up with fun comments or interesting points and observations.
Lastly, don’t forget that this is a person — a real human being, and they won’t bite you (probably). Focus more on getting out and enjoying yourself. And stay present, this is all a part of the dating journey, and you’re getting closer and closer to meeting the ONE!
Okay, now let’s get into our list of first date conversation starters.
- Where are you from?
- Do you like to travel? And if so, where did you go on your last vacation?
- If not, what do you like to do — what are your hobbies?
- Do you have a big family and do you want a big family?
- What are the top five things on your bucket list?
- If money weren’t an issue, what would you be doing right now?
- If you were stranded on a deserted island, what 5 things would you want to have with you?
- What is your favorite genre of movies and music?
- What are you watching/listening to these days?
- If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why?
- What is your pet peeve?
- If you could have dinner with a celebrity, who would it be and what are you dying to ask them?
- What are you probably too old for but still secretly enjoy?
- If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Is there anything you did during childhood that you’re still afraid to confess to your parents?
- What do you miss most about your childhood?
- What’s a popular piece of advice that you think is actually terrible?
- What’s your favorite book, and who’s your favorite author?
- Do you listen to podcasts? If so, which ones?
- If you could learn one thing about your future, what would you want to know and why?
- As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
- What’s your dream job?
- What’s something most people do easily, but you find challenging?
- Do you have any regrets?
- What are the things you’re most passionate about?
- How did you come to know the Lord?
- What is God dealing with you about in this season?
- How do you process anger?
- When was the last time you learned a new skill?
- Are you happy?
Final first date conversation tips.
Remember to have fun and that this is just to break the ice and determine whether or not you’re interested in taking things further. First date jitters are completely normal but don’t drive yourself crazy about it.
And try not to put so much pressure on the outcome. Even if this person ends up being a great friend, it wasn’t a total loss. Meeting people is so much fun, so don’t let your nerves get the best of you.
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