Living in a digital age comes with countless benefits — we practically have the world at our finger tips. We can use different apps to shop, pay bills, and do business, so why not for dating? Listen it is possible, with some patience, to find love online.
There are tons of dating apps, and even a few free options you can use if you’re still on the fence. The thought of finding love online may seem like something out of a movie, but it happens every day! So many of our TOU family have found success on apps after going through our Get a Date phase in the program. Don’t limit yourself, you have to keep your options open.
The good thing about dating online is that you can pre-qualify all your potential candidates. It’s not like having to sit through an awkward dinner with a blind date. You have the opportunity to vet them and decide if meeting is worth your time. Now, it might be a little more tedious, but what have you got to lose? If you’re willing to come out of your comfort zone, you just might bump into your person.
Here are a few tips for finding love online.
Looks aren’t everything.
Attraction is very important but it’s not everything. If you’re tempted but not sure if you want to swipe right, go through their profile to get a better feel for their personality. Once you see a little more of who they are, it might help make your decision a little easier.
Stick to your values.
Not everyone online is looking for “love” so be firm with your standards. Make sure when you match with someone and start talking, to let them know you’re dating to find love and marriage one day. If they’re not looking for anything serious don’t move forward. Sometimes we think we can start things off slow and give people time to catch up, but that’s a dangerous game.
Be willing to walk away.
Just because you’ve met someone that has potential, it doesn’t mean they’re the one for you. What we mean is, sometimes you meet someone who is attractive and well mannered, has a great job, but there’s no connection. Things feel almost forced and you can’t understand why. It happens! It could just be a reminder to hang in there, but you don’t want to end up in a stale relationship. So, be willing to walk away.
Don’t objectify yourself.
This means don’t post pictures that are too revealing or seductive and don’t brag about what you have. This goes for both men and women, you don’t want to attract the wrong kind of attention to yourself. Finding love online will take a lot longer if you don’t take the time to present yourself well.
Be authentic.
Creating an online profile can feel a little silly because you never know what to add or what to leave out. Deciding on which pictures to choose or how to answer the questions can also be tricky, but try not to over think it. Just try to relax and have fun. And, you’re profile will probably change as you think of new and better ways to express yourself. The whole point is, the right one will get it, they’ll get you. So, chill!
Dating apps can be intimidating, but don’t let fear hold you back from finding love online!
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