Married couples can get so busy with the demands of life that they forget to create moments of intimacy to recharge their relationship. But, when you don’t find the time to connect, all of your responsibilities become burdens and drive a wedge between you. It’s important that you find ways to keep your marriage fresh because quality time strengthens your bond.
Now, you may be dealing with a hectic schedule, or young kids, or crazy work hours, but you’ve got to make an effort to find time for each other. If you want this to last, BALANCE is the name of the game. No, it’s not always easy, but we came up with 3 ways that you can keep the spark in your marriage.
Take time to dream together.
One way to escape the chaos in life is to consider and plan for the future. Talk and pray with your spouse about your hopes and dreams on a regular basis. And don’t overthink it. You don’t have to plan your retirement or think about the kids’ college fund to do this. Think about vacations or maybe even birthday plans. Take your mind off of your responsibilities (for a moment) and muse to yourselves about what you’d like to do together.
Thinking about what you’ve got to look forward to is a great way to be patient in all of the madness. It’s a light at the end of the tunnel, giving you and your spouse something to hold on to. And it’s also a great team-building exercise.
Plan romantic date nights and spontaneous getaways.
You can also keep your marriage fresh by going on trips. Even if it’s only for a weekend, make time to get away at least twice a year.. And hey, we know things can get tight, so staycations count too! Call up the grandparents and tell them you all need a few days to rest and reconnect — it takes a village!
When you go (or stay), be sure to turn off your phones and don’t check your email. Focus your undivided attention on each other and have a good time. Weekly date nights are also a good option, and it doesn’t have to be too expensive. If you plan this in advance, you can put money to the side each month to be able to go. If this isn’t an option, spend time at home, maybe after the kids’ bedtime, and watch movies together.
Be creative and think outside of the box.
Surprise your spouse with love notes in secret places, like maybe in a book they’re reading. Take a painting class or work out together. Go on nature walks, try new recipes or even volunteer! They also have fun intimacy-building games you can play with your spouse to help you understand each other better. You can have friends over for group game nights as well. But whatever it takes, keep your marriage fresh.
All relationships go through different seasons, and some of them require a little more effort to stay connected. But when you do, you’ll grow closer than ever before!
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