by TOU Editorial Staff
signs that he's into you

We know that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but today we’re going to crack the code on male communication! There’s nothing worse than liking a guy and being completely unsure of his feelings toward you — not to mention, how frustrating it is. Talking through every date and conversation with your girlfriends is getting you nowhere, so we’ve got 5 signs for you to know that he’s into you!

It’s so much easier for women to understand the emotional cues of other females, but men and women communicate and deal with things differently. If you’re ever going to get clarity, you’ve got to first stop assuming that he is going to show up in the way you may expect him to.

Sometimes women fantasize about being pursued and swept off of their feet, then get disappointed when it doesn’t play out that way. So, keep an open mind and go with the flow, it’ll make dating so much more fun.

Here are 5 signs to tell that he’s into you.

1.  He initiates conversation:

Everyday there is an ongoing war for our attention and distractions are literally everywhere. From social media, to work life, home life, then if he has kids etc., we’re busy. But if a guy is into you he will find moments within the daily grind to reach out. Now, it may not always be a long drawn out conversation, but there should be some contact on a regular basis.

Ladies, please stop making excuses for men that don’t reach out to you! If he wanted to talk, he would find a way to make it happen. So, don’t fool yourself into waiting around on someone to who isn’t making an effort. Life is too short sis.

2.  He tells people about you:

If a guy is into you he will mention you to his family and friends. Men like to talk about the good things going on in their lives. If you mean something to him and he sees a future, he’ll let the people in his life know. He’ll want their opinion and and seek wisdom about how to handle the situation.

So, if you happen to meet his friends and family and they seem caught off guard or unaware that he was seeing someone (especially someone they’d be meeting), then he’s probably not that into you.

3.  He treats you like you matter:

This one might be a little more obvious, but sometimes we can mistake kindness for interest so be wary of that. If a man is prioritizing your time together, being thoughtful, and making you feel heard and understood, then he’s into you. If he doesn’t text back, tends to cancel dates, or seems inconsistent, then he’s not interested. Pay attention to the little details and the way finds time to connect with or include you in his world.

In dating we sometimes we talk about playing hard to get, but men do not play hard to get! Being shy is one thing but for the most part, men will make it known that they have romantic feelings for you.

 4. He compliments you:

Not just your physical traits, but also compliments your mind, point of view etc., this is a good sign that he’s into you. We all know that women are typically more vocal then men because it requires vulnerability — which can be foreign to some men. However, when he is willing to compliment you and express that he enjoys your company, then he likes you.
 
 5. He tells you he’s into you:

Of course we know that there are some men who play mind games, so take this with a grain of salt. A man who is serious about a relationship with you won’t be afraid to tell you how he feels. He’ll want to make sure that you know his intentions to see if you’re on the same page. But again, make sure that his words match his actions.

Simply put, if a he’s into you… you’ll know.

Lastly, ladies just remember that whether he likes you or not, has nothing to do with your worth or value as a woman. If he’s not showing any signs, take his lead and just move on. These quick tips are to help sober you and to make sure that you’re not wasting your time with someone who may not be worth it.

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