Dating can be exciting and nerve-wracking but, how many of us are considering how we date? Deciding how you want to date only means determining what you want your relationship to look like.
Here are a few things to think about when you begin dating someone:
1. Do check your motives.
What are your intentions and motives for dating this person? Even if the relationship is completely new, it’s never too early to get an idea of why you’re interested. Are you dating him/her because you’re lonely? Are you dating because of pressure from family and friends to get out more?… Or are you dating with purpose, to connect with a suitable mate?
It’s 2021, we can’t just wing it out here guys!
We have to make sure our motives are pure and that we’re not leading anyone on simply for the sake of going on dates. Remember that people are not experiments, they want the same things that you’re praying for, so be honest.
2. Don’t compete for attention.
Dating is not a competition, you are one of a kind and so is your date.
When you compete in dating, you lose focus on the person you’re getting to know and focus more on winning. A competitive mindset robs you of the opportunity to truly connect and instead has you constantly trying to prove your worthiness.
If your feeling like you have to “fight” to be seen or gain approval from this person, then they’re probably not for you.
In interviews, some people stretch the truth for jobs they really want, and the same is true in dating. But, you don’t have to be deceptive, you’re in this relationship too! You need to vet them and see if this is a relationship you want to pursue.
3. Do stay true to yourself.
Dating is great in the beginning because it’s new and everyone is on their best behavior. You have great conversations and are respectful to each other— but are you sure you’re dating the real person or just their representative?
Now, ask yourself the same question. Of course, early on, we tend to go all out on outfits, smell goods, talking points, etc., but is your date getting to know your authentic self?
You’ve come a long way in your personality, interests, and passions. So, why dumb yourself down just to date or feel desired? Don’t lose YOU while dating them.
Be yourself and don’t worry about meeting your date’s needs because you weren’t made to please “man,” you were made to please God.
Don’t forget who you are.
When you walk in your true identity in Christ, you’ll never lack confidence in your dating season. Being yourself in Him will draw the right people and deter the wrong people.
Let your light shine, it is truly rewarding to be unapologetically you.
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