All too often, we see young couples find themselves in a rut after they get past the honeymoon phase of their relationship. It’s not because they don’t love each other. It’s because their ambitious schedules have taken over their lives! It is so important to understand your boundaries — and what you’re willing to take on so that you don’t get too busy for your marriage.
It’s a lot easier than you might think to get caught up in the demands of life. Learning how to be effective without spreading yourself too thin will save you a lot of stress in the long run. Your marriage needs TLC, just like everything else in your world. If you’re feeling disconnected, you might have to let go of some of your responsibilities where you’re over-committed.
Learn to be strategic in what you give yourself to.
When new “opportunities” present themselves, talk things over with your spouse to determine the feasibility. God may have called you to do great things in the kingdom, but not at the expense of your marriage. Your spouse and your family should be the priority after God. If you’re unable to manage everything on your plate, it might be time to make some adjustments.
Western culture tends to idolize busyness as if it’s synonymous with success, but it’s not. Sometimes our ambitions can cost us a lot, and so, we have to have a balance. Even if you and your spouse work together, you’ll need to remember to set time apart for the two of you to just be man and wife. Sometimes we think we’re making the necessary sacrifices to get where God is taking us, but we don’t want to get there and wind up alone.
Here are the top 3 consequences of becoming too busy for your marriage.
First, you learn to “do without” one another.
Instead of becoming one, you remain divided. When you’re too busy for your marriage, you deny the world the power of your companionship. Yes, in marriage, we are two whole, individual people with specific gifts and talents. Still, we are also the dynamo of husband and wife that loves God and radiates His glory as a living parable before a broken society!
Then, you begin to lose patience with each other.
When you learn to do without one another, the presence of the other becomes an inconvenience when you finally are together. This can be the start of separation if you’re not careful. Spending time together helps you understand each other on a deeper level, but when you don’t, the things they do will irk you. And sooner than later, you’ll begin to resent them all together.
Finally, someone else starts to pay your spouse the attention he or she should be getting from you.
Before you know it, someone steps in and forms a bond with your spouse. And without realizing it, they’ve built up a case in their hearts for emotional infidelity. They start to compromise for flirtation because they are desperately trying to fill a void that your absence leaves behind. Covenant does not allow for distractions.
If you think you’ve gotten too busy for your marriage, stop and take inventory of your life and make some adjustments. Nothing you’re after in life compares to the beauty of covenant. You and your spouse can do a lot more together than you can being apart.
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