Okay, now, before we get our wires crossed here, this is not a post on how to keep your husband because that could get messy. Still, there are things that you can do that could potentially push your husband away. When you’re learning to become one with your spouse, there are a lot of hurdles in the beginning. How you handle the things you don’t like or understand about him will determine how long you survive.
Although you’ve dated and spent a lot of time getting to know each other before marriage, there will still be discoveries throughout your relationship. We all change and evolve with time, which means that we will constantly be learning about each other. Before you can have smooth sailing, you’ve got to work together to get through the rough waters.
So, wives, stop making these 5 mistakes because it’s pushing him away!
Mistake #1: Being unsupportive of his goals.
If your husband has a goal of saving a certain amount, or losing weight, for example, make sure you show active support. What that might look like is, helping him with a budget or cooking healthier meals. When you don’t show active support, it trivializes his goals and communicates disrespect. If he has goals that you don’t think make sense, find a way to say it gently and suggest an alternative. This could mean that you all get a side hustle to bring in more money or join the gym to help lose weight.
Mistake #2: Disregarding his judgement.
Now, this does not mean that your husband will always have the greatest ideas or that you have to agree with him 100% of the time. What it means is that when you disagree, you have to find a way to meet him in the middle and compromise. You can’t ignore him and do your own thing because you’ll end up pushing him away. Marriage is about learning how to work together,
Mistake #3: Refusing to have sex.
Wives, you have to understand the importance of sex in a man’s life. Even the Bible talks about the importance of not denying each other of sex (1 Corinthians 7:5). This is a big mistake that women make in marriage. You may not have a high sex drive, but try to find ways to get in the mood. In the long run, you’ll avoid a lot of problems.
Mistake #4: Disrespecting him in front of people
If you undermine his manhood in front of his family and our children, you’re asking for trouble. Men need respect just as much as women need love. If you feel tempted to lash out, take a moment to compose yourself and then pull him to the side. Work on how you approach conflict in your marriage.
Mistake #5: Making him feel unloved
All of us need to give and receive love. Sometimes when we get into a slump or go through a rough patch, we forget to give love because we feel deprived. It’s called self-preservation. If you’re not showing your husband love because you’re not feeling any from him, consider that maybe he’s feeling low and try to be more empathetic. Talk to him and let him know that you’re seeing some changes in him and open the door to communicate.
If you’ve been making any of these mistakes, you could be pushing him away. Don’t let these problems fester and drive you toward divorce. If you’re having trouble that you can’t work out between the two of you, go to counseling. Do whatever it takes to fight for your love.
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