Many of us are so excited about the idea of marriage that we often forget about some of the good things we’d be giving up. In singleness it’s just you and God, and He has your undivided attention. After you get married, it can be challenging to stay disciplined with your devotion and worship time. To maintain your relationship with God after marriage, you’ll have to be intentional.
1 Corinthians 7:34 says, “An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.”
The relationship you have with God will inevitably go through a transition when you enter into marriage. You’ll need to be more strategic and find ways to balance your time with Him while handling your other responsibilities. Between work, cooking, cleaning, and everything else, there seems to be less and less time for God. Because the truth is, life is no longer just about you. And, if you have kids this just gets more complicated.
But, the good news is, God understands and this is completely normal. We’re going to help all the overwhelmed newlyweds out there who may be missing their first love, or feeling guilty about all of this. All you have to do is make a few minor adjustments, and you’ll be back on track.
Here are 3 tips to maintain your relationship with God after marriage.
Tip 1: Find time
The days of coming home from work and spending the whole evening with God is over. Now you’ll have to be creative if you’re going to fit everything into your day. Try and utilize some of these moments to spend more time with God.
- Wake up earlier: Now, if you have kids and work full time, you’re probably already up pretty early. But this is a great option to consider. There’s something especially holy about early morning worship, try it!
- During your commute: The car is a perfect place to talk with God and worship. If you take the bus or train, you can read your bible app and journal to maintain your relationship with God.
- On your lunch break: If you work full-time you can fast & pray on your lunch break, or have bible study.
Tip 2: Create a schedule with your spouse
Maybe time isn’t the issue, maybe you just need to get more organized. Create a schedule with your spouse that includes God time for both of you, together and individually. Sometimes life can get distracting and so, you have to structure your days in a way that makes sense and gives you balance.
Relationships are only as good as the time you put into them. This might include conferences, group bible studies or even worship concerts. Find your own way to make it work.
Tip 3: Pray without ceasing
Don’t forget that God is omnipresent and He is always near. You can speak to Him, thank Him, and praise Him wherever and whenever. Some of the most precious encounters we have with God happen at unexpected times. It could be while your doing chores, pumping gas, or in the shower. Practice listening for His voice throughout the day.
Keep in mind that all relationships go through ups and downs, even your relationship with God. Now, this is no reason to feel bad or question your salvation, we’re human and it happens. But, Gods grace is sufficient enough to pull us back when the cares of life try and fight for our attention. You and your spouse will overcome this together, it just takes some time.
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