Ladies, did you know that you could position yourself to be found? Yep, you can…and nowadays, you have to! We know it’s a slippery slope for Christian women because we’re taught modesty, but there is a way to make yourself available without pursuing him. Mr. Right isn’t going to fall out of the sky. There are some things that you can do to increase the odds.
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” Let’s look at the meaning of “find” because we have to be clear on what the word says. The definition of find is; to discover (something or someone) without planning or trying to. So the man that God has for you can’t find you if you aren’t making yourself available.
Stop playing hide and seek!
If you desire a mate, the first thing you need to do is leave your house! Stop posting sad, lonely statuses on social media and get out and have some fun! Make yourself available by going out and exploring a little more. Now, you may be thinking, what do you mean, I do get out... What we mean is that many women often fall into a routine in their single life. You go to work, run errands, maybe you go to the gym or your favorite restaurant once in a while, but that’s not enough!
If you’re looking for some new ways to explore, try some of these:
- Check out the Meetup app and attend activities with new people.
- Take a fun class (e.g., painting, photography, cooking, self-defense).
- Join a social club in your area.
- Find local events and try new things (poetry readings, festivals, art exhibits).
While you’re out, TALK!
When you decide to go out, take one of your more outspoken friends. Someone extroverted that’s not shy about chatting with random strangers. And here’s the thing, you don’t have to focus on conversing with people you’re attracted to! Talk to anyone you encounter and work that muscle so that when he finds you, you’re not awkward. Now, this doesn’t mean be thirsty or show off for attention. It just means be sociable.
Put some effort into your appearance!
Have you ever thrown something on to make a quick run then regretted it? That is the worst! Now, if you don’t like to wear heels and get too dressy every day, that’s understandable. Invest in some cute joggers and casual attire that you can feel good in. Make yourself available by putting your best foot forward by looking your best. When you see women in their pajama pants and a bonnet on their heads, it doesn’t say I’m available. It says I’m too tired to even care about what I look like. So, look the part, ladies, presentation is everything.
Be PRESENT!
Get out of your head. Look around you, smile, and do your best to enjoy every moment. Don’t allow yourself to be consumed with the thought of meeting someone. Welcome each new day with joy and gratitude, and peace. Keep in touch with your friends and family, laugh from your belly, and be kind to yourself about where you are! This takes a lot of practice, but it’s so important. If you’re constantly wondering when you’ll miss the here and now.
Keep in mind that making yourself available is about more than going out. That is a big part of it, but the truth is, if you’re not going out, it’s probably because you’re not emotionally available. Getting married may be a goal, but it should never become your life mission. Take your time, and at the right time, he’ll show up and sweep you off of your feet!
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